As you might have imagined, lesbianism is for the most part socially-acceptable here. Lesbians, for some reason, are more able to keep their orientation from becoming the figurative talk of the town, and face less homophobia and hate crimes on average. It's definitely a double standard...if a guy is gay, then it basically becomes a part of his identity, for better and for worse.
I think I understand what you mean now about Ahmadinejad saying there are no homosexuals in Iran. My assessment of how you and ego have described 'homosexual' relationships there is that it makes sex between guys shameful and doesn't really allow for an actual emotional relationship.
Now, let me tell you guys that here, parents finding out that you're gay is a whole different scenario.
My dad didn't die of sorrow and shame when I told him, but he was
furious. I think his first question was "So which side do you want to be on?"...I swear, I could have died then.
I didn't give him a straight answer...I don't think parents here care whether you are passive or active, if you're gay at all, they're totally pissed off, usually.
Here, gay guys sometimes have sex with the opposite sex - that's called being homoflexible. I would never tell my parents I'm homoflexible though....then they'd have hope that I'D end up with a girl one day, which I don't see happening over a long period of time.
Alijsh, I've been in a relationship with a Persian guy before...and it was not a strictly sexual relationship. What would you make of that?
BTW, one stylistic thing for the both of you...if you say "if he find out that X", you are implying that X actually happened.
So unless you both really meant that you don't want your fathers to know that you had gay sex (:P), you should say, "if my father were to find out, that I had had (yes, 'had' is repeated on purpose) sex with a man" or something to that effect. That sounds more deferential.